Ender and Valentine's Talk

In Chapter 13, Valentine talks to Ender for the first time since Ender has been home. Ender refuses to have the Colonel listen to their conversation. I think he does this because he doesn't want them to analyze the talk and use it against him. Ender explains that he is very good at understanding how people think. I found it interesting when Valentine is frightened by this comment. I found out that Valentine is afraid of Ender knowing too much about her, even though Peter understands her, too. We learn another interesting thing about Ender in this chapter.  The reason that Ender does not inflicting physical violence is because the moment he is about to beat someone, he loves them. This explains many actions that Ender has taken throughout the book. One time where Ender was ashamed on his violent tendencies is when he brutally beat up Bonzo and then cried about it and was ashamed later. This is a very drastic difference from Peter. Ender is even able to love people who are trying to hurt him, whereas when Ender says that he wants Peter to love him, Valentine admits that Peter doesn't love anybody.